"i only have 6 months to live..."

[thewrongone]

I had a friend who told me a pretty big lie while we'd been in a relationship but I didn't find out about it till a year or so after we broke up. at first I was very angry with her but I never called her on it. I just tried to let the friendship fizzle out but then she told me that she had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been told she had less then a year to live. I felt like I had to forgive her and came to the conclusion that it had just been a small lie to impress me that had snowballed out of control. even though I was still angry I felt like I had to be friends with her because she was dieing. the thought that maybe it was also a lie was there but it was very far back in my mind because I just kept thinking 'no one could possibly lie about something this big'.

so I believed her and so did allot of other friends. at first we were all very sad, we tried to help her but she kept us in the dark about her doctors, treatment etc. She refused to tell any of her family saying that she didn't want them to be sad and worried for what little time she had left with them. more and more she refused to talk about it and only seemed to bring it up to get sympathy or attention. we became suspicious and noticed subtle and obvious holes in her story.

a year passed and she was still alive. she told us of symptoms, treatments and side effects but none of us ever witnessed them first hand so myself and others talked and it turned out we all had doubts about the 'diagnosis'. but by this time she'd decided to move to another country with her new partner. so instead of calling her on it we just let her move and were glad to let ourselves fall out of contact with her.

now 2 years after she was 'diagnosed' she has gotten back in touch telling us that she was misdiagnosed and is perfectly healthy and she is expecting us all to be thrilled. but this news only strengthens our suspicions. we do not know for certain that it was all lies but the evidence is overwhelming and the fact that her past lies were found out and proven makes it more likely.

[wally funk]

that's messed up. anyone who made up a story like that deserves a thrashing.

[The mad hillbilly]

that's messed up. anyone who made up a story like that deserves a thrashing.

Agreed, They need a good ol fashioned ass whoopin!

[True Blue]

you'd be a fool if you were wrong..........better get your facts straight before you go on downgrading her rep. Ask her straight up, or ask her sister/brother?

[castoff]

Find some information about "Borderline Personality Disorder" and then compare the symptoms to your friend. One of the major symptoms are lying and faking stuff for attention. Oh yeah, and it's probably a good idea to check that she wasn't telling the truth even if it's wildly improbable like previously suggested. That could be quite fun because then the game would well and truly be up. It's probable that your friend has mental health issues and therefore is vulnerable to depression.

[lorricall]

Ditch her. Even if she does have a mental disorder such as Borderline Personality Disorder, ditch her. Borderlines can suck the strength out of you if you let them. They are like emotional energy leeches. Run Forest, Run!