My girlfriend lives a street away.
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Man, fuck you so much.Originally Posted by Rudi
It effing sucks! I broke down and texted him last night, and the conversation was so pointless that it would have been better off if I had never text him at all.
Why can't people just be totally open with out sounding psychotic or desparate? Bleh.
Looks like i'll have to drink a beer for ya then, Since you won't surrender.Smart ass!J/K
Welcome to VYA MJ!Actually, women fuck us first, piss us off and file for divorce when we get mad, then we get slapped with child support, alimony (except in Texas - God's land), and judges usually side with them on everything.
So fuck you too
BTW, I'm another BS member that digs the site. Greetings!
I am the Tyranny of evil men, You are the weak.
Who you texting Dan?
No one here would know her.
OK, so here is my story.
I started chatting to this girl online about 5-6 weeks ago. We exchanged a few emails and we shared a few common interests and decided to meet up. We met up about three weeks ago and it went pretty well. We exchanged a few more texts during the week following and organised another time to meet up, which was last Wednesday. That also went well, so I reckon it's something to build on. It's just been going really slow and I don't blame her, it's just a really frustrating waiting game sometimes.
It's just that after catching up for a second time I'd really just like to get to know her more. I end up playing these games in my head, because typically I won't get messages from her often, but when I do they're mammoth in length. So like, she seems to be somewhat interested, but I have to have a lot of patience...which isn't typically my style.
She is extremely busy, as she goes to uni full time and works two jobs. I'm definitely not frustrated that she's not giving me time to get to know her a bit better. I actually quite appreciate that when she does text me she's clearly put aside like 15 mins to send the message...seriously they've been like 5 texts long at stages. The issue is that I'm poles apart. I'm more likely to send a reply within a minute (well, maybe more because it's easy to follow suit with astronomically long texts if that's what she's doing too). I'm already looking too far into this and I know it, but I just can't help it. I keep plaguing myself with questions like, would it always be like this if we got together? I also end up doing those silly things that fourftoffury was talking about. Waiting for a little bit, just to not seem overbearing. Not sure when to text and when not to.
Me being impatient as I am, sends her a text yesterday around lunch time and then spent the next 30+ hours waiting for a reply, cursing every time I'd get a message and it was from Rudi, but secretly knowing that law of averages dictate it would probably be from Rudi anyway.
When I posted this morning I was still in that waiting mode. I start thinking to myself at what point should I send a follow up text? Is she going to text back at all? And then from that I start thinking about ways I might have fucked up, reading the last text I sent to make sure I sounded normal and all that. Turns out she worked all day yesterday and all day today (her two days a week off from uni) and just walked in the door.
For now it's just me continually giving myself a head fuck every time I send a message and have to wait up to a whole day before getting a reply. It's the same cycle all the time where I feel like she's not going to reply until I get a reply. The thing is, I have moments when I can look at it objectively and know that I am going to get a reply, but they never last long.
It all sounds so trivial, but I'm happy to admit that I've had some pretty tough times over the last few years in regards to relationship stuff. I actually feel like I'm getting close to being with someone who would be pretty cool, is funny and motivated, seems to love sport (I wouldn't say that's a pre-requisite for being with me, but it sure as shit helps) and has quite a few similar tastes to me. I reckon I'm so close, but I'm constantly feeling really intense highs and lows within this period of time where we're basically just sussing each other out.
Oh Dan..I feel your pain.
I think the question of "Is it going to be like this if you got together?" is a good one. If you're hanging on her every word now, later on it could just prove to be tiresome and frustrating.
Dating sucks.
Dan, I'm sorry I send you so many messages.
Seriously though, it actually sounds (to me) like she likes you, so definitely try to avoid pushing it too hard. It's a frustrating thing to get right, especially with limited experience, but it also feels right when you get it right, so just try and play it by ear.
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